Movie Night With Payments Team

I had a movie night with payments team tonight, we watched Ice Age and in 4D (the one with 3D glasses and the seats are moving). Also we had wonderful dinner after. All paid by my generous supervisor. Hahaha. So yeah, I had a blast today.

During dinner, most of the conversation was all about marriage, or weddings, or marriage, and sometimes about work. Being the youngest member in the table, I had to really listenned, because I knew I can take a lesson or two from the conversation.

Eventhough all of the payments team are single, including my supervisor, but they shared to me their friends' stories or their relatives'. And I got my lesson today:

1. Looks is not the first thing that you need from your partner, because time can take that away as the day pass by. People grow old, and beauty doesn't last forever.

2. Money is not everything. Well, I know that we need money for living of course, but that doesn't mean our partner has to be rich or comes from a wealthy family or an heir from a massive corporate. Life is like a ferris wheel, one time you can be on top looking down, but you also have to remember that you're not going to stay there forever.

And this one came from my supervisor: when your partner is rich, you will get the anxious feeling that he/she might flirt with someone else. If you have partner who is on the same level as you financially, you both can work together to reach the top. You both will feel the struggle, and this will strengthen your relationship.

3. Marriage means you will get a big responsibility, road also get tougher. And with that being said, you need someone who want and can share the responsibility with you, and they have to fully commit to it, because this is not a weekly or monthly thing, it's a lifetime.

There.

Those were the lesson I got tonight. They are all good lessons and I really need that. Because some of my friends already married back in Indonesia. The average age to get married in Indonesia is 25-27 I think, and this year I will turn 23, so close to the average age hahaha. Though I never set the exact age when I need to get married, but who knows right? It could be two years from now, or it could be by the end of next year, it could be this year, or as impossible as this might sounds, it could be next week. Nobody knows.

But I just hope that whoever my husband is later, I hope he can accept all of my imperfectness and deal with the weirdness and the nerd that I am. Because I know sometimes it can be hard to deal with someone like me. Several guys gave up already on me, so yeah, I know. I take relationship seriously, so when they gave up and walked away, it hurted me real bad because it means that they were not strong enough to keep the relationship alive. So now I just hope this person never gives up on me because i won't give up on him either, no matter how hard life can be.